Yesterday someone posted on facebook a very CAPITALIZED comment that struck me as incredibly ironic as well as incredibly irritated.
In short, the comment screamed at EVERYONE to not look at the poster’s friend list and trying to friend their friends even though you don’t know them and have never met them.
I’ve never met this person. They are a friend on my facebook because they found ME as a friend of a friend or of a poster on a friend’s comment and they asked me to be their friend.
The most ironic part of the TIRADE was…
The people you are asking to friend don’t know you (ajw… I don’t know you and I friended you) and how dumb are you to go to someone else’s stuff and request their friends as your friend. You should, basically, wait for them to ask you to be their friends and then it is okay.
So… I shouldn’t try to find friends on other people’s stuff because that make me rude. I should sit around and not friend anyone and if anyone requests to friend me then I should probably say no because they probably found me through someone else’s stuff and that makes them TOTALLY rude (again… back to that I didn’t know you but I friended you when you asked) and I don’t want to be friends with people ruder than I am.
The person found me through a comment I made on an epilepsy post maybe or the fact that I was a friend of someone who has epilepsy. The epilepsy community is great and we pretty much support each other totally. I don’t get a ton of requests for friends, but most of the ones I do get are because I post on people’s epilepsy posts or because I am friends with someone with seizures.
I’ve started to gain a few friends who have added me because of posts that I put on RA discussions. They have apparently “liked” things I’ve said and have decided that maybe I don’t suck. Yay. I don’t suck.
Okay. You know, I’ve been the person hunting all over everywhere for information on people who are further down the diagnosis trail than I was. Fear will make you do (apparently stupid and rude and crass) things because either you have a diagnosis that scares the crap out of you or you love someone who has a diagnosis that scares the crap out of you. Nuff Said.
I am a mom. I don’t apologize for that.
There is this AWESOME cool “NO” option. I know there are people who have ignored my request. There is a lady who has RA and wrote a very VERY depressing book that I wanted to talk to because she was diagnosed decades before I was and she was way further down the trail. I know she said no and ignored me. Okay. Nuff said. FIDO (Forget It Drive On).
I don’t hide how I feel about things, typically. I am vocal. I find information and share that information if I can. I answer questions. I provide support. Heck, I provide support to people I have never met and who live in many different places. Frankly, I’m pretty sure there are several people like me on facebook. They provide support and answers and a shoulder to cry on.
I don’t ask many people to friend me. I post on discussions. I post on my page and my wall. I accept people when they ask me to friend them. Very very few of them do I actually know.
And you know what, if I took the path of not having friends that are people I “DON’T EVEN KNOW THEM” I would have missed some awesome friendships. I would have missed knowing about some amazing people. I would have missed out of so much.
Sometimes I am sulky.
Sometimes I am quiet because either I hurt so bad I can’t post or because I’m stressed or snowed under at work.
Sometimes I am witty. Sometimes I repost a ton of stuff (pictures… quotes… randomness) that other people have posted and I have found wonderful.
Tell you what. I am http://facebook.com/awellsdba
If you want to friend me, be warned, I don’t care if I know you or not, I will accept the request. If I find you to be rude and abusive to me, I will UN-friend you. The world is a big, stupid, scary place and frankly I think that the more people who understand that we all have lives and we all need to be able to touch lives all over the world the better the world will be.
If you need to have a smile, I’m all over it.
If you have questions, I’m all over it.
If you want to vent and flip out periodically. Okay. Your right.
but you know… if you did something you are SCREAMING at other people not to do… realize that you are a hypocrite and that someone is likely to call you out on it at some point.