No, not me. My baby boy. But, as anyone who doesn’t live their life in a vacuum, the act of coming out as gay doesn’t affect only the person who is actually doing the coming out. It effects everyone.
But how it effects people doesn’t have to be in a bad way. The people coming out haven’t changed in any way. They are still the person they were before they came to the conclusion they are LGBTQQ. They are the same son or daughter. The same brother or sister, niece or nephew. The same friend. All that changed is now the people they came out to know that their preference in who they are looking for in a life mate is different (maybe).
I’m really struggling right now with all of the stories I’ve been reading about how people have gone through all kinds of…stuff… when the come out. I really just don’t get it. I guess I really am weird.
Oh My gosh! I just found your site, and sister do we have a lot in common. I was diagnosed with RA 3 years ago. For 2 1/2 years I did the self pity thing. Gained 50 pounds on top of the 70 extra I already carried. I told myself I was fighting, but actually I was not. So In February of this year I started walking. Only a few miles at first, then it became every day off. I’m adding running to my routine, have lost 60 pounds, and now my goal is a 1/2 marathon in January. I feel amazing, even though my flares and swelling fight back, I mentally have overcome the abuse I let them have on my mind.
I was looking for something, anything regarding training for this event, while dealing with RA.
Any and all tips would be appreciated. I don’t think many people would even take on this challenge, with our condition, but I am not many people, I am me.
I briefly read over your sons coming out. I too have a child who was actually “outed” by a family member a few years ago. It hurt like hell. She wanted to tell me. I did not handle it well at all. I was always supportive of the gay community, but when it came into my home, I realized I am not who I told myself I was. Moving forward to the present, I have grown and so has our family.
What happens is our children take a path we did not plan on for them. It’s shocking. But we never stop growing as adults, and I believe I can help others in the journey they may have ahead.
Thanks for being here! Going to follow your stories!